Osho on Feminine Qualities
Question: I Love, trust, beauty,
sincerity, truthfulness, Authenticity.
Love, trust, beauty, sincerity, truthfulness, authenticity --
these are all feminine qualities, and they are far greater than
any qualities that man has. But the whole past has been
dominated by man and his qualities. Naturally in war, love is of
no use, truth is of no use, beauty is of no use, aesthetic
sensibility is no use. In war, you need a heart which is more
stony than stones. In war, you need simply hate, anger, a
madness to destroy. In three thousand years, man has fought five
thousand wars. Yes, this is also strength but not worthy of
human beings. This is strength derived from our animal
It belongs to the past, which is gone, and the feminine
qualities belong to the future, which is coming. There is no
need to feel yourself weak because of your feminine qualities.
You should feel grateful to existence that what man has to earn,
you have been given by nature as a gift. Man has to learn how to
love. Man has to learn how to let the heart be the master and
the mind be just an obedient servant. Man has to learn these
things. The woman brings these things with her, but we condemn
all these qualities as weaknesses.
The women's liberation movement has to learn one fundamental
thing: that is not to imitate man and not to listen what he says
about feminine qualities, the feminine personality. Drop all the
ideas of man that he has been putting in your heads. And also
drop the ideas of the women's liberation movement, because they
are also putting nonsense into your minds. Their nonsense is
that they are trying to prove that men and women are equal.
They are not -- and when I say they are not, I don't mean that
someone is superior and someone is inferior.
I mean that they are unique. Women are women and men are men;
there is no question of comparison. Equality is out of the
question. They are not unequal and neither can they be equal.
They are unique. Rejoice in your feminine qualities, make a
poetry of your feminine qualities. That is your great
inheritance from nature. Don't throw it away, because the man
does not have them. To be equal, you may start doing idiotic
things. We should have a deep respect for feminine qualities and
those qualities prohibit many things, encourage many other
The woman should not try to imitate man, because even if you
succeed.... It is difficult to succeed. Imitation is always
imitation, it is never equal. But for argument's sake, if we
accept that you can become exactly like a man, you will lose all
that you have and you will not gain anything. Because even in
the eyes of man, you will not be beautiful anymore, and in your
own eyes, you will be shattered. It was better to be unequal
than to be equal, because now the man takes no interest.
A woman should keep her separateness, should save all her
feminine qualities and purify them. In this way she is going,
according to her nature, towards enlightenment. Of course once
you are enlightened, you have gone beyond the discrimination of
sexes. Beyond enlightenment, you are simply human beings. But
Be proud of your qualities. Increase them, refine them because
they are the path towards godliness. Man is not in a better
position than woman as far as religious experience is concerned.
But he has one quality and that is of the warrior. Once he gets
a challenge, then he can grow any kind of qualities. Even the
feminine qualities, he can grow better than any woman can. His
fighting spirit balances things. Women have qualities inborn.
Man needs only to be provoked, given a challenge: these
qualities have not been given to you -- you have to earn them.
And if men and women both can live these qualities, the day is
not far away when we can transform this world into a paradise. I
am for the qualities of women.
I would like the whole world to be full of feminine qualities.
Then only can wars disappear. Then only can marriage disappear.
Then only can nations disappear. Then only can we have one
world: a loving, a peaceful, a silent
and beautiful world. So drop all the conditionings man has given
to you. Find your own qualities and develop
them. You are not to imitate the man; neither is the man to
imitate you. When I say he has to grow feminine qualities, I
don't mean that he has to imitate women.
Every person, whether man or woman, is born of a father and of a
mother. Half of his being is contributed by man and half by
woman, so everybody is both. If you are a man, then the man is
on top and underneath it, hidden, are all the feminine
qualities, the contribution from your mother. If you are a
woman, then your feminine qualities are on top and your male
qualities are underneath it; that is the contribution of your
father. And there is no need of any conflict between you,
because you are man and woman together, simultaneously.
Rather than creating a conflict, my whole work is to indicate to
you the path, how you can create an orchestra of all your
qualities together. That will be your wholeness as a human
being. So there is a possibility So there is a possibility, but
the possibility has a basic condition to be fulfilled: you
become more conscious, a witness, a watcher of all that goes on
inside you. The watcher becomes immediately free from
identification. Because he can see the emotions, it is an
absolute certainty that "I am not the emotions."
He can see the thoughts; the simple conclusion is, "I am not my
thought process." "Then who am I?" -- a pure watcher, a witness.
And you reach to the ultimate possibility of intelligence in
you: You become a conscious man.
Amongst the whole world sleeping, you become awake, and once you
are awake there is no problem. Your very awakening will start
shifting things to their right places. The head has to be
dethroned, and the heart has to be crowned again. This change
amongst many people will bring a new society, a New Man in the
It will change so many things, you cannot conceive. Science will
have a totally different flavor. It will not serve death
anymore, it will not make weapons that are going to kill the
whole of life on the earth. It will make life richer,
discover energies which can make man more fulfilled, which can
make man live in comfort, in luxury, because the values will
have completely changed. It will still be mind functioning, but
under the direction of the heart. My way is the way of
I have to use language, unfortunately, that's why I say may way
is the way of meditation: Neither of head nor of heart, but of a
growing consciousness which is above both mind and heart. This
is the key to open the doors for a New Man to arrive on the
Osho Articles on Women:
Osho on Woman
Osho on Nice Qualities
Osho on Qualities of the
Osho on Motherly
Qualities of woman
Osho discourse on
Osho on Special
Meditations for Women
Responsiblity of being a Mother
Osho on Mother duty in Child
Osho on Pain
of Witch and Beauty of Witches
Osho on greatest need of
Osho on real
differences detween Men and Women
- Osho on Difference
in female mind and male Mind
Osho on Female Creativity - Female
Woman destructive attitude during Periods
Osho discourse on Being an
Artist rather than a Mother
Osho - Whenever a Child is born, the
Mother is also Born
- Every man is
a woman too and Every woman is a Man too
Difficulty in Loving Oneself - learning to love oneself
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