Osho on Birth of a Mother
Question: When I gave birth to my
first child, I felt I was also born
In a way. Can you talk about the birth of a mother?
Whenever a child is born, not only is the child born -- that is
one part of it -- the mother is
also born. Before that she was an ordinary woman; through the
birth she becomes a
mother. On one side the child is born, on the other side the
mother is born. And a mother
is totally different from a woman: a gap exists, her whole
existence becomes qualitatively
different. Before that she may have been a wife, a beloved, but
suddenly that is no longer
so important. A child is born, a new life has entered: she
becomes a mother.
That's why husbands are always afraid of children. Basically
they never like children
because a third party enters into the relationship -- not only
enters, but the third party
becomes the center. And after that the woman is never the same
wife, she is different.
After that, if a husband really wants love he has to become just
like a son, because this
woman who has become a mother can never be an ordinary wife
again. She has become a
mother, you cannot do anything about it now. The only thing left
is that you become a
son to her.
That is the only way you can get her love again,
otherwise the love will be
moving towards her son.
When a woman becomes a mother, something tremendously meaningful
has happened to her. For a woman it is almost a new birth. It is something which
is very difficult for a
man to understand unless he is creative .
If he has given birth to a poem, he feels tremendously happy.
Nobody can understand
what has happened just by composing a poem. But its not just a
poem. Much was in
turmoil in him, and the poem has settled many things.
But it is nothing compared to a woman when she becomes a mother
-- nothing. A poem is
a poem. The moment it is born it is already dead. When it is
inside the poet it has life.
The moment it is expressed it is a dead piece of furniture. You
can hang it on the wall.
You can throw it on the rubbish heap, or whatsoever you want,
but it is no more alive.
When a woman gives birth to a child, it is life. When she looks
into the eyes of the child,
she looks into her own being. When the child starts growing, she
grows with the child.
Osho Articles on Women:
Osho on Woman
Osho on Nice Qualities
Osho on Qualities of the
Osho on Motherly
Qualities of woman
Osho discourse on
Osho on Special
Meditations for Women
Responsibility of being a Mother
Osho on Mother duty in Child
Osho - Woman should not try to
Osho on Pain
of Witch and Beauty of Witches
why do you ask people to get Married
Osho on greatest need of
Osho on Female Creativity - Female
Woman destructive attitude during Periods
Osho discourse on Being an
Artist rather than a Mother
- Every man is
a woman too and Every woman is a Man too
- Osho - Can you say
something about the mystery of Women
Difficulty in Loving Oneself - learning to love oneself
Osho - Why is the New Generation such a
problem to the Parents
way to help a Child grow without interfering in his natural
Osho - Parents are cruel to their children
because parents have some investment in them
Back to Counseling