Difference in Female mind and Male mind
Question : What is the difference
between the female mind and the Male mind?
Osho : Modern research has come to a
very significant fact, one of the most significant achieved in
this century, and that is that you don't have one mind, you have
two minds. Your brain is divided into two hemispheres: the right
hemisphere and the left hemisphere. The right hemisphere is
joined with the left hand, and the left hemisphere is joined
with the right hand -- crosswise.
The right hemisphere is intuitive, illogical, irrational,
poetic, platonic, imaginative, romantic, mythical, religious;
and the left hemisphere is logical, rational, mathematical,
Aristotelian, scientific, calculative. These two hemispheres are
constantly in conflict -- the basic politics of the world is
within you, the greatest politics of the world is within you.
You may not be aware of it, but once you become aware, the real
thing to be done is somewhere between these two minds.
The left hand is concerned with the right hemisphere --
intuition, imagination, myth, poetry, religion -- and the left
hand is very much condemned. The society is of those who are
right-handed -- right-handed means left hemisphere. Ten per cent
of children are born left-handed but they are forced to be
right-handed. Children who are born left-handed are basically
irrational, intuitive, non-mathematical, non-Euclidean... they
are dangerous for
society so it forces them in every way to become right-handed.
It is not just a question of hands, it is a question of inner
politics: the left-handed child functions through the right
hemisphere -- that society cannot allow, it is dangerous, so he
has to be stopped before things go too far. It is suspected that
in the beginning the proportion must have been fifty-fifty --
left handed children fifty per cent and right-handed children
fifty per cent -- but the right handed party has ruled so long
that by and by the proportion has fallen to ten per cent and
ninety per cent.
Even amongst you here many will be left-handed but you may not
be aware of it. You may write with the right hand and do your
work with the right hand but in your childhood you may have been
forced to be right-handed. This is a trick because once you
become right-handed your left hemisphere starts functioning. The
left hemisphere is reason; the right hemisphere is beyond
reason, its functioning is not mathematical. It functions in
flashes, it is intuitive, very graceful -- but irrational.
The left-handed minority is the most oppressed minority in the
world, even more than Negroes, even more than the poor people.
If you understand this division, you will understand many
things. With the bourgeoisie and the proletariat the proletariat
is always functioning through the right hemisphere of the brain:
the poor people are more intuitive. Go to the primitive people,
they are more intuitive. The poorer the person, the less
intellectual -- and that may be the cause of his being poor.
Because he is less intellectual he cannot compete in the world
of reason. He is less articulate as far as language is
concerned, reason is concerned, calculation is concerned -- he
is almost a fool. That may be the cause of his being poor. The
rich person is functioning through the left hemisphere; he is
more calculative, arithmetical in everything, cunning, clever,
logical -- and he plans. That may be the reason why he is rich.
The bourgeoisie and the proletariat cannot disappear by
communist revolutions, no, because the communist
revolution is by the same people. The Czar ruled Russia; he
ruled it through the left hemisphere of the mind. Then he was
replaced by Lenin who was of the same type. Then Lenin was
replaced by Stalin who was even more of the same type. The
revolution is false because deep down the same type of people
are ruling -- the ruler and the ruled
mean the same, and the ruled are those of the right-sided
So whatsoever you do in the outside world makes no difference
really, it is superficial. The same applies to men and women.
Women are right-hemisphere people, men are left hemisphered. Men
have ruled women for centuries. Now a few women are revolting
but the amazing thing is that these are the same type of women.
In fact they are just like men -- rational, argumentative,
Aristotelian. It is possible that one day, just as the communist
revolution has succeeded in Russia and China, somewhere, maybe
in America, women can succeed and overthrow men.
But by the time the women succeed, the women will no more be
women, they will have become left hemisphered.
Because to fight, one has to be calculative, and to fight with
men you have to be like men: aggressive. That very
aggressiveness is shown all over the world in women's
liberation. Women who have become part of that liberation
movement are very aggressive, they are losing all grace, all
that comes out of intuition. Because if you have to fight with
men you have to learn the same trick;
if you have to fight with men, you have to fight with the same
techniques. Fighting with anybody is very dangerous because you
become like your enemy. That is one of the greatest problems of
humanity. Once you fight with somebody, by and by you have to
use the same technique and the same way. Then the enemy may be
by the time he is defeated you have become your own enemy.
Stalin is more Czar-like than any Czar, more violent than any
Of course it has to be so: to throw Czars, very violent people
are needed, more violent than the Czar himself. Only they will
become the revolutionaries, will come out on top. By the time
they reach there they have become Czars themselves, and the
society continues on the same way. Just superficial things
change, deep down the same conflict remains. The conflict is in
man. Unless it is resolved there, it cannot be resolved anywhere
else. The politics is within you; it is between the two parts of
A very small bridge exists. If that bridge is broken through
some accident, through some physiological defect or something
else, the person becomes split, the person becomes two persons
-- and the phenomenon of schizophrenia or split personality
happens. If the bridge is broken -- and the bridge is very
fragile -- then you become two, you behave like two persons. In
the morning you are very loving, very beautiful; in the evening
you are very angry, absolutely different. You don't remember
your morning... how can youremember?
Another mind was functioning -- and the person becomes two
persons. If this bridge is strengthened so much that the two
minds disappear as two and become one, then integration, then
crystallization, arises. What George Gurdjieff used to call the
crystallization of being is nothing but these two minds becoming
one, the meeting of the male and the female within, the meeting
of yin and yang, the meeting of the left and right, the meeting
of logic and illogic, the meeting of Plato and Aristotle.
If you can understand this basic bifurcation in your tree of
then you can understand all the conflict that goes on around and
inside you. The female mind has a grace, the male mind has
efficiency. and of course, in the long
run, if there is a constant fight, the grace is bound to be
defeated -- the efficient mind will win. because the world
understands the language of mathematics not of love. But the
moment your efficiency wins over your grace, you have lost
something tremendously valuable: you have lost contact with your
You may become very efficient, but you will be no more a real
person. You will become a machine, a robot-like thing. Because
of this here is constant conflict between man and woman. They
cannot remain separate, they have to get into relationship again
and again -- but they cannot remain together either. The fight
is not outside, the fight is within you. And this is my
understanding: unless you have resolved your inner fight between
the right and the left hemispheres, you will never be able to be
peacefully in love -- never -- because the inner fight will be
If you are fighting inside and you are identified with the left
hemisphere, the reason hemisphere, and you are continuously
trying to overpower the right hemisphere, you will try to do the
same with the woman you fall in love with. If the woman is
continuously fighting her own reason inside, she will
continuously fight the man she loves. All relationships --
almost all, the exceptions are negligible, can be left out of
account -- are ugly. In the beginning they are beautiful; in the
beginning you don't show the reality; in the beginning you
Once the relationship settles and you relax, your inner conflict
bubbles up and starts being mirrored in your relationship. Then
come fights, then come a thousand and one ways of nagging each
other, destroying each other. Hence the attraction for
homosexuality. Whenever a society becomes too divided between
man and woman,
homosexuality erupts immediately. Because at least a man in love
with a man is not that much in conflict.
The love relationship may not be very satisfying, may not lead
to tremendous bliss and orgasmic moments, but at least it is not
so ugly as the relationship between a man and a woman. Women
become lesbians whenever the conflict becomes too much, because
at least the love relationship between two women is not so deep
in conflict. The same meets the same; they can understand each
other. Yes, understanding is possible, but the attraction is
lost, the polarity is lost -- it is at a very great cost.
Understanding is possible, but the whole tension, the challenge,
If you choose challenge, then comes conflict, because the real
problem is somewhere within you. Unless you have settled, come
to a deep harmony between your female and male mind, you will
not be able to love. This is the difficulty of the whole modern
mind. All relationships are becoming by and by casual. People
are afraid of any sort of commitment,, because they have come to
know at least one thing out of bitter experience -- whenever you
become related too much, the reality erupts, and your inner
conflict starts being reflected by the other and then life
becomes ugly, horrible, intolerable.
If you are outside of it, it may look like a beautiful oasis in
the desert but as you come close the oasis starts drying and
disappearing. Once you are caught in it, it is an imprisonment,
but remember, the imprisonment doesn't come from the other, it
comes from within you. If the left-hemisphere brain goes on
dominating you, you will live a very successful life -- so
successful that by the time you are forty you will have ulcers;
by the time you are forty-five you will have had at least one or
two heart-attacks; by the time you are fifty you will be almost
dead -- but successfully dead. You may become a great scientist,
but you will never become a great being.
You may accumulate enough of wealth, but you will lose all that
is of worth. You may conquer the whole world like an Alexander,
but your own inner territory will remain unconquered. There are
many attractions to follow the left-hemisphere brain -- that is
the worldly brain. It is more concerned with things: cars,
money, houses, power, prestige. That is the orientation of the
man who in India we call a GRUSTHA, a householder.
The right-hemisphere brain is the orientation of the SANNYASIN.
one who is more interested in his own inner being, his
inner peace, his blissfulness, and is less concerned about
things. If they come easily, good; if they don't come that is
also good. He is more concerned with the moment, less concerned
with the future; more concerned with the poetry of life, less
concerned with the arithmetic of it. There is a way to follow
life through arithmetic and there is another way to follow life
through dream -- through dreams and visions. They are totally
Just the other day somebody asked, 'Are there ghosts, fairies,
and things like that?' Yes, there are -- if you move through the
right-hemisphere brain, there are. If you move through the
left-hemisphere brain, there are not. All children are right-hemisphered,
they see ghosts and fairies all around, but you go on talking to
them and putting them in their places and saying to them,
'Nonsense. You are stupid. Where is the fairy?
There is nothing, just a shadow.' By and by you convince the
child, the helpless child; by and by you convince him and he
moves from the right-hemisphered orientation to the left-hemisphered
orientation -- he has to. He has to live in your world: he has
to forget his dreams, he has to forget all myth, he has to
forget all poetry, he has to
learn mathematics. Of course he becomes efficient in mathematics
-- and becomes almost crippled and paralyzed in life. Existence
goes on getting farther and farther away and he becomes just a
commodity in the market, his whole life becomes just rubbish...
although, of course, valuable in the eyes of the world.
A Sannyasin is one who lives through the imagination, who lives
through the dreaming quality of his mind, who lives through
poetry, who poeticizes about life, who looks through visions.
Then trees are greener than they look to you, then birds are
more beautiful, then everything takes a luminous quality.
Ordinary pebbles become diamonds; ordinary rocks are no longer
ordinary -- nothing is ordinary. If you look from the right
hemisphere, everything becomes Divine, sacred. Religion is from
the right hemisphere.
A man was sitting with his friend in a cafeteria drinking tea.
He studied his cup and said with a sigh, 'Ah, my friend, life is
like a cup of tea.' The other considered that for a moment and
then said, 'But why? Why is life like a cup of
tea?' The first man replied, 'How should I know? Am I a
philosopher?' The right-hemisphere brain only makes statements
about facts, it cannot give you reasons. If you ask, 'Why?' it
can only remain silent, there comes no response from it.
If you are walking and you see a lotus flower and you say,
'Beautiful!' -- and somebody says, 'Why?' what will you do? You
will say, 'How am I to know? Am I a philosopher?' It is a simple
statement, a very simple statement, in itself total, complete.
There is no reason behind it and no result beyond it, it is a
simple statement of fact.
The right hemisphere is the hemisphere of poetry and love. A
great shift is needed; that shift is the inner transformation.
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