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Osho on Motherly Qualities of woman

Question : Can you speak about the motherly qualities of a woman?
Osho : To be a mother is sweet.... Why? Just giving birth to a child is not to be a mother, remember. Otherwise there are millions of mothers on the earth -- and there seems to be no sweetness. In fact, if you ask the psychologists they will say just the opposite. They will say the only problem to be solved is the mother. The only pathology that millions of people are suffering from is the mother. And what they are saying they are saying after fifty, sixty years of constant analysis of thousands of people.

Everybody's illness basically comes to one point: that it has been given to you, transmitted to you by your mother. There are people who are afraid of women; and if you are afraid of women you can't love them. How can love arise out of fear? And why are you afraid of women? -- because your childhood was lived in fear of your mother. She was constantly after you, she was constantly hammering you. She was constantly telling you to do this and not to do that -- of course, for your own good.

She has crippled you, she has destroyed many things in you. She has made you phony because she has told you what is right to do. Whether you like it or not, whether it is spontaneously arising in you or not, you have to follow the order. And you were so helpless... your survival depended on the mother so you had to listen to her. She conditioned you. And it is because of the fear of your mother that you are afraid of women. Millions of husbands are henpecked for the simple reason that their mothers were too strong.

It has nothing to do with the wife; they are simply projecting the mother on the wife. The wife is only a new edition of the mother. They are expecting everything from the wife that they expected from the mother. On the one hand it cripples them; on the other hand they start expecting things which are not possible from the wife's side -- because she is not your mother. So you feel frustrated. And how can you make love to your wife?

A boy who has really been dominated by the mother, who has been reduced into absolute obedience, will not be able to make love to a woman, because as he will come close to the woman psychologically he will go impotent. How can you make love to your mother? It is impossible. Hence many people become impotent with their wives, but only with their wives. With the prostitutes they are not impotent. It is strange: why are they not impotent with the prostitute? -- for the simple reason that they can't think of their mother as a prostitute; that is impossible.

Their mother, and a prostitute? The prostitute is a world apart. But they can think of their wife as a mother, they can project the mother. The wife becomes simply a screen. They want the wife to take care of them like a small child, and if she is not taking care they feel offended. Thousands of neurotic people and psychotic people are there in the world because of the mother. And Buddha says: To Be a Mother is sweet. He must mean something else. He can't mean a Jewish mother! He means not just giving birth to a child; that does not make one a mother.

To be motherly is a totally different phenomenon. It is something absolutely human; it transcends animality.
 It has nothing to do with biology. It is love, pure love, unconditional love. When a mother loves unconditionally -- and only a mother can love unconditionally -- the child learns the joy of unconditional love. The child becomes capable of loving unconditionally. And to be able to love unconditionally is to be religious. And it is the easiest thing for a woman to do. It is easy for her because naturally she is ready for it.

She is just on the verge of transcending biology through being a mother. You can be motherly without giving birth to a child. You can be motherly to anybody. You can be motherly to an animal, to a tree. You can be motherly to anything. It is something inside you. Being motherly means being capable of unconditional love, loving the person for the sheer joy of loving, helping the person to grow for the sheer joy of seeing somebody grow. A real therapist is a mother. If he is not, he is not a real therapist.

He is only a professional exploiting people, exploiting them because of their misery. But a real therapist is a mother. He becomes a womb for the patient. He gives the patient a new birth. He starts the life of the patient again from ABC. He gives him a clean sheet to write his life again. That's what I mean when I say "the psychology of the buddhas"; that is real therapy. A master is a real therapist; his very presence is therapeutic. He surrounds you like a mother. He is a cloud who surrounds you from everywhere, from all the sides, in all the dimensions, like a mother.

Related Osho Articles on Women:

  1. Osho on Woman Liberation
  2. Osho on Nice Qualities of Woman
  3. Osho on Qualities of the Female Mind
  4. Osho discourse on Women’s Menopause
  5. Osho on Special Meditations for Women
  6. Osho on Responsibility of being a Mother
  7. Osho on Mother duty in Child Upbringing
  8. Osho - Woman should not try to imitate Man
  9. Osho on Pain of Witch and Beauty of Witches
  10. Osho - why do you ask people to get Married
  11. Osho on greatest need of Contemporary Woman
  12. Osho on Female Creativity - Female Creative Spirit
  13. Osho on Woman destructive attitude during Periods
  14. Osho on Negativity in Mother Daughter Relationship
  15. Osho discourse on Being an Artist rather than a Mother
  16. Osho - Whenever a Child is born, the Mother is also Born
  17. Every man is a woman too and Every woman is a Man too
  18. Osho on Difficulty in Loving Oneself - learning to love oneself
  19. Right way to help a Child grow without interfering in his natural potentiality
  20. Osho - Why is the New Generation such a problem to the Parents

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