Vigyan Bhairav Tantra - Meditation
"EVEN REMEMBERING UNION, WITHOUT THE EMBRACE, THE
Once you know this, even the partner is not needed. You can simply
remember the act and enter into it. But first you must have the feeling.
If you know the feeling, you can enter into the act without the partner.
This is a little difficult, but it happens. And unless it happens, you
go on being dependent, a dependency is created.
For so many reasons it happens. If you have had the
feeling, if you have known the moment when you were not there but only a
vibrating energy had become one and there was a circle with the partner,
in that moment there was no partner. In that moment only you are, and
for the partner you are not: only he or she is. That oneness is centered
within you; the partner is no more there. And it is easier for women to
have this feeling because they are always making love with closed eyes.
During this technique, it is good if you have your eyes closed. Then
only an inner feeling of a circle, only an inner feeling of oneness, is
there. Then just remember it. Close your eyes; lie down as if you are
with your partner. Just remember and start feeling it. Your body will
begin to shake and vibrate. Allow it! Forget completely that the other
is not there. Move as if the other is present. Only in the beginning is
it "as if." Once you know, then it is not "as if," then the other is
Move as if you are actually going into the love act. Do whatsoever you
would have done with your partner. Scream, move, shake. Soon the circle
will be there, and this circle is miraculous. Soon you will feel that
the circle is created, but now this circle is not created with a man and
woman. If you are man, then the whole universe has become woman; if you
are woman, then the whole universe has become man. Now you are in a deep
communion with the existence itself, and the door, the other, is no more
The other is simply a door. While making love to a woman, you are really
making love to existence itself. The woman is just a door, the man is
just a door. The other is just a door for the whole, but you are in such
a hurry you never feel it. If you remain in communion, in deep embrace
for hours together, you will forget the other and the other will just
become an extension of the whole. Once this technique is known you can
use it alone, and when you can use it alone it gives you a new freedom
-- freedom from the other.
It really happens that the whole existence becomes the other -- your
beloved, your lover -- and then this technique can be used continuously,
and one can remain in constant communion with the existence. And then
you can do it in other dimensions also. Walking in the morning, you can
do it. Then you are in communion with the air, with the rising sun and
the stars and the trees. Staring at the stars in the night, you can do
it. Looking at the moon, you can do it. You can be in the sex act with
the whole universe once you know how it happens.
But it is good to start with human beings because they are nearest to
you -- the nearest part of the universe. But they are dispensable. You
can take a jump and forget the door completely -- "EVEN REMEMBERING
UNION, THE TRANSFORMATION" -- and you WILL be transformed, you will
Tantra uses sex as a vehicle. It is energy; it can be used as a vehicle.
It can transform you, and it can give you transcendental states. But as
we are using sex, it looks difficult for us -- because we are using it
in a very wrong way, and the wrong way is not natural. Even animals are
better than us: they are using it in a natural way. Our ways are
perverted. Constant hammering on the human mind that sex is sin has
created a deep barrier within you. You never allow yourself a total
Something is always standing aloof condemning, even for
the new generation. They may say they are not burdened, obsessed, that
sex is not a taboo for them, but you cannot unburden your unconscious so
easily. It has been built over centuries and centuries; the whole human
past is there. So while you may not be condemning it as sin consciously,
the unconscious is there constantly condemning it. You are never totally
in it. Something is always left out. That left-out part creates the
Tantra says move in it totally. Just forget yourself, your civilization,
your religion, your culture, your ideology. Forget everything. Just move
in the sex act: move in it totally; do not leave anything out. Become
absolutely non-thinking. Only then does the awareness happen that you
have become one with someone. And this feeling of oneness can then be
detached from the partner and it can be used with the whole universe.
You can be in a sex act with a tree, with the moon, with anything. Once,
you know how to create this circle, it can be created with anything --
even without anything.
You can create this circle within yourself because man is both man and
woman, and woman is both woman and man. You are both because you were
created by two, You were created by man and woman both, so half of you
remains the other. You can forget everything completely, and the circle
can be created within you. Once the circle is created within you -- your
man is meeting your woman, the inner woman is meeting the inner man --
you are in an embrace within yourself. And only when this circle is
created is real celibacy attained. Otherwise all celibacies are just
perversions, and then they create their own problems. When this circle
is created inside, you are freed.
This is what tantra says: "Sex is the deepest bondage, yet it can be
used as a vehicle for the highest freedom." Tantra says poison can be
used as medicine, but wisdom is needed. So do not condemn anything.
Rather, use it. And do not be against anything. Find out ways how it can
be used and transformed. Tantra is a deep, total acceptance of life. It
is the only approach of its kind. All over the world, in all the
centuries that have gone by, tantra is unique. It says don't throw
anything and don't be against anything and don't create any conflict,
because with any conflict you will be destructive with yourself.
All the religions are against sex, afraid of it, because it is such a
great energy. Once you are in it you are no more, and then the current
will take you anywhere. That is why the fear. So create a barrier in
which you and the current become two, and do not allow this vital energy
to have any possession over you: be the master of it.
Only tantra says that this mastery is going to be false, diseased,
pathological, because you cannot really be divided with this current.
You are it! So all divisions will be false, arbitrary, and basically, no
division is possible because you are the current -- a part and parcel of
it, just a wave in it. You can become frozen and you can separate
yourself from the current, but that frozenness will be deadness. And
humanity has become dead. No one is really alive; you are just dead
weights floating in the stream. Melt!
Tantra says try to melt. Do not become like icebergs: melt and become
one with the river. Becoming one with the river, feeling one with the
river, merging in the river, be aware and there will be transformation.
There IS transformation. Transformation is not through conflict; it is
through awareness. These three techniques are very, very scientific, but
then sex becomes something other than what you know. Then it is not a
temporary relief; then it is not throwing energy out. Then there is no
end to it. It becomes a meditative circle.