on Love - Am I in Love?
Question: During my whole life, I
always thought that I loved Somebody. Now, being here for the
first time with you, I Ask myself: have I ever really been in
Love? Am I even able To love? Am I able to Love you?
Osho : The basic fallacy that you
are carrying within you is that you always loved somebody. This
is one of the most significant things about all human beings;
their love is always for somebody, it is addressed -- and the
moment you address your love, you destroy it. It is as if you
are saying, "I will breathe only for you -- and when you are not
there, then how can I breathe?"
Love should be like breathing. It should be just a quality in
you -- wherever you are, with whomsoever you are, or even if you
are alone, love goes on overflowing from you. It is not a
question of being in love with someone -- it is a question of
being love. People are frustrated in their love experiences, not
because something is wrong with
love... they narrow down love to such a point that the ocean of
love cannot remain there. You cannot contain the ocean -- it is
not a small stream; love is your whole being -- love is your
One should think in terms of whether one is loving or not. The
question of the object of love does not arise. With your wife,
you love your wife; with your children, you love your children;
with your servants, you love your servants; with your friends,
you love your friends; with the trees, you love the trees; with
the ocean, you love
the ocean. You are love. Love is not dependent on the object,
but is a radiation of your subjectivity -- a radiation
of your soul. And the vaster the radiation, the greater is your
The wider spread are the wings of your love, the bigger is the
sky of your being. You have lived under a common fallacy of all
human beings. Now you are asking, "Am I able to love You?" --
again, the same fallacy. Just ask: Am I able to become love?
When you are in my presence, you need not think of loving me;
otherwise, you have not
come out of your ordinary fallacies. Here, you have to learn...
just being loving. Of course your love will reach me too; it
will reach others too.
It will be a vibe surrounding you, spreading all over; and if so
many people are simply broadcasting their love, their song,
their ecstasy, the whole place becomes a temple. There is no
other way of making a temple. Then the whole area is filled with
a new kind of energy, and nobody is at a loss -- because on you
is showering the love of so many people: on each single person,
so many people's love is showering.
Drop that fallacy. And because of that fallacy, another question
arises in you: "... or has life brought me to the point where
happiness in love does not happen anymore?"
Life is nothing but an opportunity for love to blossom. If you
are alive, the opportunity is there -- even to the last breath.
You may have missed your whole life: just the last breath, the
last moment on the earth, if you can be love, you have not
missed anything -- because a single moment of love is equal to
the whole eternity of love.
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Relationships and learn how to Relate
Osho on Commitment and
Non-Attachment in Love
Osho on importance of
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Relationship between Living Partners and Growth
Problems of Love - In my relationship I often
lose my Self
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Osho - Before you can Love
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Aloneness - We are born alone, we live alone, and we die alone
Osho on hell of
living with a woman and the hell of living without a woman
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