Osho on Male Ego - man
insensitivity towards Woman
A woman friend of mine often uses the words "male
ego" about Me, which I feel is not true about me. From the very
beginning i have been open and vulnerable to Feminine energy,
which is teaching me to become a disciple every Day. Moreover, I
have felt that when she used this word there Was some kind of
hatred towards men. Osho, can you explain what the "male ego"
is, and what it means When a woman uses this expression about a
Osho: The ego is simply the ego, it
is neither male nor female. But man has been very inhuman
towards women for centuries, continuously. And the strange thing
is that the man has been so cruel and inhuman towards women
because he feels a deep inferiority complex in comparison to
them. The greatest problem has been that the woman is capable of
becoming a mother; she is capable of giving birth to life, and
man is not. That was the beginning of the feeling of inferiority
-- that nature depends on woman, not on man.
Moreover, he has found that she is in many ways stronger than
him. Women are more patient, more tolerant than men. Men are
very impatient and very intolerant. Women are less violent than
men. Women don't commit murders; it is the man who commits
murders, who wages crusades, who is always getting ready for
war, who invents all kinds of deadly weapons -- atomic bombs,
nuclear weapons. The woman is completely out of this whole game
of death. Hence it was no coincidence that man started feeling
And nobody wants to be inferior; the only way was to force the
woman in artificial ways to become inferior. For
example, not to allow her education, not to allow her economic
freedom, not to allow her to move out of the house, but confine
her to an imprisonment. It seems almost unbelievable what man
has done to woman just to get rid of his inferiority. He has
made the woman artificially inferior. It is not only a question
for you. When your woman is telling you that you have a male
ego, she is simply representing all women, and you are nothing
but a representative of all men.
Your forefathers have done so much harm that there is no way to
come to a balance. So when your woman says that this is male
ego, try to understand -- perhaps she is right. Most probably
she is right -- because the male has accepted himself as
superior for so long that he does not feel that it is his ego.
It is the woman who feels it. Don't deny her feeling. Be
grateful to her, and ask her where she feels the ego so that you
can drop it. Take her help.
You are simply denying it; you don't feel that you have any male
ego. But it is simply a traditional heritage.
Every small boy has a male ego -- just a small boy, if he starts
crying you immediately say, "Why are you crying like a girl? A
girl is allowed to cry because she is subhuman. You are going to
be a big male chauvinist; you are not supposed to cry or weep."
And small boys start stopping their tears. It is very rare to
find men who are as ready to cry and allow tears to flow as
Remember, you both have the same size tear
glands in your eyes, so nature does not make any difference. Listen to the woman. You have suppressed the woman and oppressed
the woman so much, it is time that she should be listened to and
things should be corrected. At least in your personal life do as
much as you can to allow the woman as much freedom as possible
-- the same freedom that you allow yourself. Help her to stand
up so that she can blossom again.
We will have a more beautiful world if all women -- and women
are half of the world -- are allowed to grow their talents,
their genius. It is not a question at all... nobody is higher,
nobody is lower. Women are women, men are men; they have
differences, but differences don't make anybody higher or lower.
Their differences create their attraction. Just think of a world
where there are only men. It will be so ugly, everywhere Morarji
Desai... Morarji Desai... all drinking their urine, nothing else
Life is rich because there are differences, different attitudes,
different opinions. Nobody is superior, nobody is inferior.
People are simply different. Accept this, and help your woman to
be free from ten thousand years of repression. Be a friend to
her. Much harm has been done; she has been wounded so much that
if you can do some healing with your love, you will be
contributing to the whole world, to the whole world
Don't feel bad if your woman says "this is male ego."
there in a subtle form, unrecognizeable because it has been
there for so long; you have forgotten that this is ego. Take her
help so that you can recognize it and destroy it.
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