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Question: When I gave birth to my
first child, I felt I was also born
In a way. Can you talk about the birth of a mother?
Osho:
Whenever a child is born, not only is the child born -- that is
one part of it -- the mother is
also born. Before that she was an ordinary woman; through the
birth she becomes a
mother. On one side the child is born, on the other side the
mother is born. And a mother
is totally different from a woman: a gap exists, her whole
existence becomes qualitatively
different. Before that she may have been a wife, a beloved, but
suddenly that is no longer
so important. A child is born, a new life has entered: she
becomes a mother.
That's why husbands are always afraid of children. Basically
they never like children
because a third party enters into the relationship -- not only
enters, but the third party
becomes the center. And after that the woman is never the same
wife, she is different.
After that, if a husband really wants love he has to become just
like a son, because this
woman who has become a mother can never be an ordinary wife
again. She has become a
mother, you cannot do anything about it now. The only thing left
is that you become a
son to her.
That is the only way you can get her love again,
otherwise the love will be
moving towards her son.
When a woman becomes a mother, something tremendously meaningful
has happened to her. For a woman it is almost a new birth. It is something which
is very difficult for a
man to understand unless he is creative .
If he has given birth to a poem, he feels tremendously happy.
Nobody can understand
what has happened just by composing a poem. But its not just a
poem. Much was in
turmoil in him, and the poem has settled many things.
But it is nothing compared to a woman when she becomes a mother
-- nothing. A poem is
a poem. The moment it is born it is already dead. When it is
inside the poet it has life.
The moment it is expressed it is a dead piece of furniture. You
can hang it on the wall.
You can throw it on the rubbish heap, or whatsoever you want,
but it is no more alive.
When a woman gives birth to a child, it is life. When she looks
into the eyes of the child,
she looks into her own being. When the child starts growing, she
grows with the child.
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